Hello blog! It’s June 30th, the last day of writing every day for a month! I managed to write only 11 (eleven) our of 30 days! Haha! Not even two weeks, though it seemed as if I posted every day for at LEAST two weeks…oh well!
There are a lot of thoughts going through my head at the moment, but here is something I would like to share…
This passed weekend I attending a retreat. We name of the retreat was “United” and it was a great retreat! Wonderful experience, the kindest girls, and a great worship leader; like crazy good *cough cough* (I lead worship with a friend)! 🙂
This weekend, and life in general, as showed and or taught me something and that something is:
- How important Unity is.
- How toxic relationships can get, even if you don’t realize it.
On both topics I can, and did, say so much, but below I have copy/pasted from an email I composed about my thoughts, though they may seem scattered, on the topic. Without further ado.
People are so interesting. We come, as they say, in all different colors, shapes, and sizes; all different personalities, characteristics, fill in the blank! People, you and I, you and your sister, you and your friend, are completely different people. There is no one exactly like you in this entire world, past, present, or future. Isn’t that a crazy thought?
When I think of people, the human race, I wonder sometimes why it’s so hard to accept each others differences and move on living together in somewhat peace in this fallen world, having a good time and doing what we love. What I don’t understand are people who hang onto and pick up on superficial “blemishes” other people have and because of those superficial imperfections they can’t have anything to do with that person! Instead of digging deeper and truly learning the persons heart, they get so caught on actions or reactions of the flesh and just completely disregard who the person, their spirit and soul and heart, truly is! I believe that we show a lot through our actions, but I also believe it’s so important, if you care about someone, to know their heart so that you truly know how they feel about things. If you pay attention to someone you care about, you know how they react to things when they’re in a “good” place or “bad” place. You know that somethings wrong if they react negatively in a situation that they would normally be very calm or positive in. Anyway, forgive any rambling.
What I was getting to with our differences and all is that, although there are SO many differences, so many divided people and opinions, so many people…there is one thing that makes us all identical, united and tied together as one and the same. Do you know what that is? Well, friend, it is our amazing God! It is the blood of Jesus Christ that was shed for our sins! Because of Salvation through Jesus we all have the identity of Christ, therefore we are all united in Christ, our Lord and Savior. That is the only thing in this life where there is complete unity and oneness. Stop and look at your life, look at the world and notice how there is segregation all around. But having the Holy Spirit in you, you are a new creation, you are joined by faith with your brothers and sister in Christ, granted with the blessing of eternal life! And guess what? Through all of our physical differences, all the things we can see with our eyes, through our different personalities, ways of thinking, etc, we must, I repeat MUST, stick together and stand up for each other and also for the Word of God! The Bible and God himself are bible trampled by every power that be; but guess what God’s word says: “But take heart; I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33 esv). That is what encourages me. But it also motivates me to live a life, the best of my puny little human ability way, a life which honors and brings glory to God and that shines brightly to others as well. We can’t be lazy! We can’t keep rejecting those who are not just like us because, like I said, though some may have similarities we are all different and we need to support each other and love each other and live our lives seeking the Lord and asking for His perspective and guidance.
So, I encourage you, as well as myself, love thy neighbor as thyself. That is not to say if someone is being mean to you, saying things behind your back, believing lies about you, using you, trying to have unnecessary power over you, the list goes on, then you need to let go of those relationships, no matter how hard or unthinkable it may seem, give it to God and ask Him to replace it with peace and joy in Christ, and just let go of the toxic relationships(s) that may be in your life; we don’t need them. We can still love someone, as a follower of Christ, and not get along all the time. Maybe this is sounding hypocritical, but I think most of you (hopefully all of you!) understand what I’m trying to say.
One last little story. In my life I have experienced countless (so it seems) situations of confrontation. My biggest weakness probably! I have experienced situations and gone through friendships and relations during my life that seemed so pointless or I really just couldn’t understand why I went through them if the outcome wasn’t going to be positive. In the moment I didn’t understand what the reason(s) was that I had to “suffer” through uncomfortable confrontational circumstances. Today I’m happy to report that God has helped me over the last few years SO much and confronting people, though scary, nerve wracking, or intimidating at times, is very necessary and it’s not up to me how someone reacts to what I have to say! Nothing about someone else is up to me! I, with God help, am in charge of my actions, responses, decisions, you name it, and other people, you, are in charge of your actions, responses, decisions, etc. So, what I’ve learned is that no matter the outcome, whether you lose something or someone you though was dear to you, it is okay. Even if it’s confusing at the time, God is amazing guys! He is there always when you call upon His name! As the Bible says “Ask, and you will receive…” (John 16:24 esv). If you are going through a difficult time with a person, whether you know them very well, you’re related, you love them, you hardly know them, whatever your situation may be, don’t forget about God. You are fully equipped by God to handle every situation. You are strong enough, you are powerful enough by the power of the Holy Spirit in you! You are worth it to stand up for yourself and end a toxic relationship! You don’t need to have any excuses, any reasons, or any apology if you are involved with someone who is superficial or degrading or mean, fill in the blank! I keep saying “etc” or “fill in the blank” because I truly want you to choose the word(s) for these situations/circumstances and relate to my rambling words!
I don’t know your story. I don’t know if you’ve been hurt by someone or multiple people or if you haven’t experienced that yet (I say yet because in this world, you will experience it!). Through many different times in my life I have experienced loss of friendship and relationship and even unity. Within myself I battle flesh and my faith. All these things I’ve said are things I have struggled with or experienced myself! But I have chosen to seek God in all things, especially when life lets you down, because it is overwhelming how amazing He is and how much He loves us! We need to seek God in the good and the bad in our lives because we need to thank Him for giving us life, no matter what we get to go through in our lives.
This has been long, I know, and if you are reading this paragraph, thank you for staying committed! I hope it was clear to you what my thoughts are and what I was trying to say! Remember that you are amazing and you are worth being in healthy, positive and uplifting relationships whether romantic or friendships. Remember how important it is, as a declaring Christian and follower of Jesus to have unity in the church and to love those, no matter their differences, who truly love our God; the Creator of all things living.
Have a very blessed weekend and a safe 4th of July! God bless you and God bless the United States of America! Much love.